I’m going to go ahead and give you the key takeaway from this post:
You should have high standards for yourself, your relationships, your career and your life because you deserve them.
I just saved you five more minutes of reading; so, you’re welcome.
Here’s the deal: high standards and being a perfectionist are NOT the same thing. I already wrote a post about the dangers of being a perfectionist and I stand by what I said.
Having high standards doesn’t mean you, or everything you do, is perfect. It doesn’t mean you’ll never mess up, it doesn’t mean you’ll never fail or never disappoint yourself or someone else. You will oversleep, you’ll miss the gym, you’ll eat too much, you’ll forget something important for work and you’ll wear your shirt inside out. (Hopefully all of this won’t happen on the same day, but, you get what I’m saying).
Having high standards means having goals for yourself and your relationships that are worthy of who you are.
Having high standards means taking care of yourself. Always aiming to get enough to sleep, stay active and eat well, even if that doesn’t always happen.
Having high standards means dressing in a way that reflects your personality, your love of beauty and most importantly, your dignity.
Having high standards means only being friends with people who love, care and respect you and treat you in a way that reflects that.
Having high standards means knowing your talents and pursuing a career that enables you to use them.
Having high standards means knowing your worth as a person and not allowing any relationship in your life question, undermine, or contradict that.
The thing about our standards is that you only live up to the standards you set. Meaning if you are afraid to go for what you really want and work hard to get it, you won’t get it. In order to achieve something we have to first recognize that it’s possible. Unfortunately people often close the doors on their dreams because they tell themselves it’s unrealistic and that’s that. I know that you are completely capable of achieving whatever you want, but to do so, you have to raise your standards to the level you ultimately want to reach.
People will challenge you. People want to feel better about their decisions, so they try to make yours more like theirs. This is an important reason why I always have surrounded myself with friends who inspire me to be better. Look around, are the people you spend time with encouraging you or bringing you down? It can be hard to face but letting go of the people who affect us negatively is crucial to success.
What do you really want? What kind of lifestyle do you want to have? What kind of relationship do you want to be in? Take the time to think about what it is you want, it can be scary to admit because it seems so out of reach; but I’m here to tell you that it is completely possible, you just have to raise your standards and start working to reach them.