What a fun Fall weekend. It was definitely a chilly one but we got to spend time with friends, celebrate birthdays, check out new stores and have dinner on the water! It was nice too because we got to spend time with different groups of friends that we don’t see as often. I always feel so blessed to have the opportunity to spend time with friends, community is so important!
Nicholas had his first recruitment dinner last night (a dinner for current residents to meet with candidates who are considering joining the program) and for that we went to a spot called Fleet Landing. It is one of the few restaurants in downtown Charleston that is on the water. It’s cool because it is nice abut not too ritzy. The vibe is very nautical and no-frills. The food was very good, I got a shrimp salad and Nicholas got the shrimp and grits, I have to say I think his dish was better- so yummy!
It’s crazy that this is the last week before Thanksgiving! This season is flying by. Here are some things I’m looking forward to this week, I hope you take a minute to make your own list too!
Southern Living Store
We happened to go to the shopping center in Mount Pleasant where Southern Living opened a store. I honestly had no idea Southern Living had stores, much less that there was one in the town I live in! We ventured inside Saturday morning and it was so fun! They really have beautiful things, lots of smaller items like dishtowels and hand creams, water bottles, cookbooks etc. And they have larger items to decorate your home as well. I loved the style (simple and comfy) and we had so much fun reading funny sayings on much of the merchandise like “crazy is the new black” or “I think my guardian angel drinks” or “in queso emergency”. It’s a great place to get fun, cute gifts or to just look around and get some inspiration for your own home!
Spiked hot chocolate
We had a friend’s birthday Saturday evening (shout out to Juliana!) and we weren’t sure what to bring, I don’t remember which one of us came up with the idea but we decided to bring spiked hot chocolate! Nicholas found this recipe on Pinterest and it was so good. The only change I made was add the peppermint schnapps. It was really delicious. It is also very rich, so you and your guests probably won’t want more than a cup or two. I think it’s a great option to bring to a party or for having family over the holidays! It’s so yummy and warm and comforting.
In the vein of hygge, which I talked about last week, I’ve been lighting a lot of candles recently. When it’s cold outside, and especially if it’s cold and gloomy, a candle can make such a difference. It really makes the whole room feel so much more cozy and comfortable. We have so many candles that we rarely use, it’s been nice to finally actually use them. I think I feel like there has to be a special occasion for us to light candles, but that really isn’t true (at least, the candle police hasn’t said anything so far). I think little things like that can lift our mood so much and it’s important to make the most of them! If anyone has any other little things that make them feel better during the day, please share!
My brother sent me a bit by a comedian about the ‘gender war.’ It was a really funny segment on how men and women think differently. For example, for women a comment such as ‘it’s cold in here’ is really a request that the temperature be changed, and if it is ignored, the man may find himself being asked questions like “do you even love me?” before too long. One of my favorite lines was this:
“Men and women need each other. Because women bring life into this world, we need them. And women, women can’t reach all the shelves, so they need us too.”
Nicholas sent this quote yesterday and I think it’s definitely worth sharing:
“There is no intimacy without vulnerability and no vulnerability without surrender.”
In relationships, whether friends, family or our significant others, vulnerability is a requirement of intimacy. Obviously in different relationships there should be different levels of vulnerability. You shouldn’t be as vulnerable with a girlfriend as you are with your spouse, for example. However, regardless of the degree, pretending to have it all together and never admitting any weakness prevents us from achieving a higher level of closeness. Especially in our closest relationships, vulnerability is so essential. We all carry our own wounds, struggles and shortcomings. We all have times of our lives that are especially difficult for some reason or another. To admit that we have been hurt, to admit that we mess up, to admit that we need the other person’s support is not needy, it is human and invites the other person to a deeper understanding of who we are. When we are vulnerable, we express trust and we allow the other person to love us more completely, brokenness and all. When we do the same for the other person, we have the opportunity to practice empathy and compassion and to love the person unconditionally. Learning to be vulnerable is really tough, but it’s good for us to keep in mind that the next time we’re struggling with something, the next time we’re acutely aware of a weakness, we can share it with the person closest to us. In doing so we deepen the intimacy and lighten our load just a little.